How to Flirt with Your Ex (Part 2)
March 21, 2009
This post is a continuation from Part 1 of How to Flirt with Your Ex
Keep Things Interesting
One reason people have trouble resolving issues with their ex is because they revisit the past too much. They talk about how things used to be…and this works against them. Remember that your ex left because he or she wasn’t happy. They needed a change of pace, which means you should forget about all those things you used to do.
Make things fun again by building up the excitement and anticipation. Surprise your ex with by showing them a new side of you they have not seen. Keep them interested by inviting them to fun places like concerts, sporting events, and other things you have never done together. They don’t necessarily have to be “dates” as you don’t want them to feel uncomfortable. If you can keep them smiling and having fun then the relationship will eventually blossom again.
Leave Them Wanting More
Once you have established trust with your ex you can begin to work on the romance. Once again you don’t want to rely on the same techniques you used before. Have fun together and show your flirty side, but in the first few weeks you should stop before things get too steamy. You want them to get that feeling that your relationship is heating up…but you also want them to know they will have to work for it. The submissive personality in a relationship never has any power and this why you need to regain control. Even though they broke up with you it is possible to turn the tables on them by planting nurturing their desire to be with you again.
Be Prepared to Walk Away
None of these flirting ideas will work unless you are able to walk away from your ex. The first big test will come when you feel the electricity between you for the first time since your break up. While it may be tempting to give in to your sexual desires, you have to hold out for a commitment. You might face pressure from your ex to take the next step in getting back together, but until you know they are committed you have to be able to walk away. Of course there is a small chance this strategy will end the relationship forever. However, if your ex truly loves you, then waiting for the right moment will ultimately bring you closer together.
May 28, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Hi,
my ex just broke up with me 3 weeks ago. Except for during that breakup call, and a later phone call, I didn’t cry or beg for her to return to me. I love her very much she was my first gf and we met in university. Last week i met her on a train station near our campus. My friendly approach to talk to her about schoolwork was returned with her 1 word answers and coldness. I amicably bid her goodbye when my train came first. I was angry and sms her about it after i boarded the train that she is acting very childish and isn’t helping the situation by avoiding. I also said in my sms that i do not love her anymore and there’s no need to hide from me(though i still love her and hope she can at least talk to me so that there’s chance to be together again)
I now regret i made that wrong step. I hurted her without intentions during our r/s by being possessive and showing anger at other guys who came to disturb her.
should I walk up to her again and pass her a handwritten note writing that i was sorry for that trainstation incident because of my temper, that i learnt my mistakes of being too possessive and thank her for letting me learnt about my mistakes during the whole r/s..? Her birthday is coming this month, what can i do to make her happy?
I really don’t know how to ask her back. I love her very much. Please share with me any advice you can give, greatly appreciates that. Thank you