How to Flirt with Your Ex (Part 1)
November 19, 2008
It can feel a little awkward to flirt with your ex when you are trying to win them back. It is like two resisting forces working against each other. Your ex is trying to distance himself from you, and at the same time you are trying to get closer to them. But even though it might seem impossible to turn the tide of love in your favor, there are things you can do break the ice.
Make Them Feel Comfortable
You definitely don’t want to be too pushy during this emotional time. You want your ex to feel confident and in control around you. This means you have to use a more delicate approach to flirting. Simple things like smiling while looking into their eyes can be very powerful as it will remind them of why they were attracted to you. Try to keep your conversations focused on them. People love to talk about themselves and it makes it easier to sustain a conversation when they feel like you are interested in what they have to say. The bottom line is the more you can make them feel relaxed around you, the more open they will be to getting back together.
Show Them What They Are Missing
The only way to get your ex back is to show them that you are the best partner for them. This means looking your best when you are out in public and focusing on being active and happy. This isn’t always easy if you are going through a difficult breakup, but it is important to put forth your best effort. There is a physical attraction involved with flirting, but there is also an emotional side of it as well. Even if your ex left you behind for someone else it doesn’t mean they are completely satisfied. By showing them how fun and exciting it is to be around you it is possible to make them forget everything that happened in the past. Humans are selfish by nature, and if you can prove you have the power to make your ex happy then they will come back to you.
January 19, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Wow…..Would this be “an so unusual” coincidence by accident I connected with my ex on Nov 18th with the same first name? Or maybe there is more than on ex? Coincidence….that he is also One that is also into fitness..This person has a torch for me for over 15 years. The reality is I have given up any dreams or fantasies, made wrong assumptions about my life causing me to give in to temptations I should have never done. As britney says “I dont want to dream about all the things that never were” and as Beyonce said as Sasha Fierce “If you liked it to much, you should have put a ring on it”!!!! The reality is I am not cinderella throwing a glass slipper at stroke of midnight, I am not Brooke Shields, waiting behind the palm tree on a desert island.. I should have read up on connecting with ex on facebook and been “cautious cool” than I was. I have accepted the realistic ending and hope to mend that friendship.
January 19, 2009 at 3:42 pm
Realized it was the not the same person..but he sure you used your technicques which backfired since we are both married…
February 19, 2009 at 1:12 am
This is a really good website. It gives great advice for free unlike the other websites like Magic of Making Up which keeps showing up on google. Thanks for posting. Also, I tried to be pushy after meeting up with my ex for the first time. I thought we had a good date after not meeting for a month, but he was being somewhat distant. When I called him out on it the next day he got angry and defensive and confirmed that we are broken up and not getting back together. He also says he still loves me but not in that way and he still wants to be friends when I asked him but does not want to talk about why the relationship did not work. Whenever I get emotional he gets more distant and reaffirms why we should not be together. We were together for 3 years. He thought I temporarily liked another guy which I brought up before our break up, but I did not and I think that is what triggered the whole thing off. Let me know if you have any advice.
March 21, 2009 at 8:21 pm
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