What Do You Say to Your Ex?

When it comes time to approaching your ex for the first time after your break up, it can be hard to think of the right things to say.  You want everything to be perfect and it can be easy to place unrealistic pressures on yourself.  Some people even procrastinate calling their ex because they want to wait until they find the right words.  While you certainly don’t want to make a fool of yourself, your best bet might be to have no expectations for the moment.

One of the reasons that people fail to reconnect with their ex is that they try too hard, which makes things seem rushed or forced.  Ideally you want your lover to decide on their own to give you another chance.  They are much more likely to be forgiving when they think they are in control.  This is why you need to use your first conversations to build trust.

Don’t stay up the whole night coming up with a poem or ridiculous letter.  This strategy may work under the right situations, but you can also make an impact by thinking outside the box.  Instead of being crushed by the break and up and begging for forgiveness, try pretending that everything is fine.  In fact, talk to them as if nothing ever happened. Make the impression that you expect things to be just fine and yesterday’s fight was just overblown.  Sure it is a little risky…but it is worth it for the chance that everything will solve itself.

You don’t need to write a romantic song to get back with your ex if you use psychology to your advantage.