How to Flirt with Your Ex (Part 2)

This post is a continuation from Part 1 of How to Flirt with Your Ex

Keep Things Interesting
One reason people have trouble resolving issues with their ex is because they revisit the past too much.  They talk about how things used to be…and this works against them.  Remember that your ex left because he or she wasn’t happy.  They needed a change of pace, which means you should forget about all those things you used to do.

Make things fun again by building up the excitement and anticipation.  Surprise your ex with by showing them a new side of you they have not seen.  Keep them interested by inviting them to fun places like concerts, sporting events, and other things you have never done together.  They don’t necessarily have to be “dates” as you don’t want them to feel uncomfortable.  If you can keep them smiling and having fun then the relationship will eventually blossom again.

Leave Them Wanting More
Once you have established trust with your ex you can begin to work on the romance.  Once again you don’t want to rely on the same techniques you used before.  Have fun together and show your flirty side, but in the first few weeks you should stop before things get too steamy.  You want them to get that feeling that your relationship is heating up…but you also want them to know they will have to work for it.  The submissive personality in a relationship never has any power and this why you need to regain control.  Even though they broke up with you it is possible to turn the tables on them by planting nurturing their desire to be with you again.

Be Prepared to Walk Away
None of these flirting ideas will work unless you are able to walk away from your ex.  The first big test will come when you feel the electricity between you for the first time since your break up.  While it may be tempting to give in to your sexual desires, you have to hold out for a commitment.  You might face pressure from your ex to take the next step in getting back together, but until you know they are committed you have to be able to walk away.  Of course there is a small chance this strategy will end the relationship forever.  However, if your ex truly loves you, then waiting for the right moment will ultimately bring you closer together.

How to Flirt with Your Ex (Part 1)

It can feel a little awkward to flirt with your ex when you are trying to win them back.  It is like two resisting forces working against each other.  Your ex is trying to distance himself from you, and at the same time you are trying to get closer to them.  But even though it might seem impossible to turn the tide of love in your favor, there are things you can do break the ice.

Make Them Feel Comfortable
You definitely don’t want to be too pushy during this emotional time.  You want your ex to feel confident and in control around you.  This means you have to use a more delicate approach to flirting.  Simple things like smiling while looking into their eyes can be very powerful as it will remind them of why they were attracted to you.  Try to keep your conversations focused on them.  People love to talk about themselves and it makes it easier to sustain a conversation when they feel like you are interested in what they have to say.  The bottom line is the more you can make them feel relaxed around you, the more open they will be to getting back together.

Show Them What They Are Missing
The only way to get your ex back is to show them that you are the best partner for them.  This means looking your best when you are out in public and focusing on being active and happy.  This isn’t always easy if you are going through a difficult breakup, but it is important to put forth your best effort.  There is a physical attraction involved with flirting, but there is also an emotional side of it as well.  Even if your ex left you behind for someone else it doesn’t mean they are completely satisfied.  By showing them how fun and exciting it is to be around you it is possible to make them forget everything that happened in the past.  Humans are selfish by nature, and if you can prove you have the power to make your ex happy then they will come back to you.

What Do You Say to Your Ex?

When it comes time to approaching your ex for the first time after your break up, it can be hard to think of the right things to say.  You want everything to be perfect and it can be easy to place unrealistic pressures on yourself.  Some people even procrastinate calling their ex because they want to wait until they find the right words.  While you certainly don’t want to make a fool of yourself, your best bet might be to have no expectations for the moment.

One of the reasons that people fail to reconnect with their ex is that they try too hard, which makes things seem rushed or forced.  Ideally you want your lover to decide on their own to give you another chance.  They are much more likely to be forgiving when they think they are in control.  This is why you need to use your first conversations to build trust.

Don’t stay up the whole night coming up with a poem or ridiculous letter.  This strategy may work under the right situations, but you can also make an impact by thinking outside the box.  Instead of being crushed by the break and up and begging for forgiveness, try pretending that everything is fine.  In fact, talk to them as if nothing ever happened. Make the impression that you expect things to be just fine and yesterday’s fight was just overblown.  Sure it is a little risky…but it is worth it for the chance that everything will solve itself.

You don’t need to write a romantic song to get back with your ex if you use psychology to your advantage.

Be Confident to Win Back Love

Getting dumped can be devastating for your self-confidence. You start to question your looks and even life in general.  It can be easy to be hard on yourself, but if you are not careful this type of self-destruction will ruin your chances of getting back your ex.

Part of the game of winning back love is proving to your ex that your life was more than just him or her.  Letting them believe they were the reason your relationship survived gives them too much power.  You need to stand tall and show them that you can live alone and succeed.

Getting out of the house and resuming your social life is a great way to attract more attention from your ex.  While they might not admit it, the more people that talk about your activities the more your ex will wonder if they made the right decision to leave you.  It is similar to celebrities, the more we see them live the glamorous life, the more we need to know what they are doing at all times.

No matter how sad you are inside, make yourself get out into the social world and at least fake having a good time.  It might be hard at first, but you will slowly build confidence in yourself.  This new sense of pride will carry over in everything you do – which will put you back on your ex’s radar.

One Chance to Impress Your Ex

When emotions are running high you rarely take the time to think about the consequences of your actions.  You let your heart determine which direction you will take, but your heart is drawn to its fondest memories and it doesn’t always understand what it means to be patient.

The first two weeks after a break up is the most crucial time in determining what chance your relationship has of being saved.  Your ex left for his or her own reasons, but they too might be letting emotions influence their thoughts.  This is why you must allow the “thunderstorm” of a break up pass before trying to pick up the pieces.  Running into the fury is a losing battle.

Take a break from the situation and begin with these 3 Steps for Getting Your Ex Back.

Remember that the people who think they can beg, buy, or stalk their way back into their lover’s life almost always fail.  These techniques never work because they don’t solve the core issue – your ex actually has to want you back.  Forcing yourself on them will only turn them away.